feeling jealous - cousin started 'dating'

[loverboy2601]

so i dont think i have any feelings for this cousin. he comes over every week or so for few days. he met someone online dating (dating is not the right word as the girl is in a different country).. and since he has told me this i feel jealous, annoyed like knots in my stomach..

this feeling is irrational because like i said i dont have a 'crush' or thought of him as that way, i still dont think - but maybe because we spend time together.. i just feel like when he does meet the girl, the thought of her touching him or them spending time together irks me and i just wanted to vent... i know it might be messed up but i cant help how i feel.. i have been honest with him saying i feel jealous - but i havent mentioned my sexuality as i think its irrelevant.. if i had feelings then maybe..

[joeyessexfan88]

Hey very happy to talk this through with you. Sent you a PM.

[Parsifal]

It sounds like you may be afraid that you will lose him and the good times you spend together.  But you cannot be free unless you let go of him.  Otherwise your attachment will hold you down like a ball chained to your foot.  So let go and enjoy your cousin's friendship in whatever form may come going forward.  Your life is still full of adventures yet to come.  Good luck.

[loverboy2601]

It sounds like you may be afraid that you will lose him and the good times you spend together.  But you cannot be free unless you let go of him.  Otherwise your attachment will hold you down like a ball chained to your foot.  So let go and enjoy your cousin's friendship in whatever form may come going forward.  Your life is still full of adventures yet to come.  Good luck.

that is true - i m worried when she comes in, he wont have time for me - trips and whatnot..  as it would look odd him going on trips and in uk u can only have 28 days, he is most likely going 2 go out with her rather than me..