Dating Apps - Yay or Nay?

[Saturns-Stingray]

I tried all the usual dating apps for years and had no success at all, I'd match with someone very rarely and when I did, and tried to start a converation I never had any responses, none. In the end I've kind of just stopped and resigned to the fact that maybe I am meant to be on my own. I know they say there is someone out there for everyone, but I dont think I believe that any more and the apps just made me feel bad about myself.

[veidor]

I tried all the usual dating apps for years and had no success at all, I'd match with someone very rarely and when I did, and tried to start a converation I never had any responses, none. In the end I've kind of just stopped and resigned to the fact that maybe I am meant to be on my own. I know they say there is someone out there for everyone, but I dont think I believe that any more and the apps just made me feel bad about myself.

That's really sad that you feel like that and the ruthlessness of certain apps probably isn't helping your self esteem.

I've met a few nice guys, including my partner, through Tinder.  The other apps are pretty much just people looking for a quick sexual encounter.  Nothing wrong with that but people like you who are looking for something more meaningful can feel intimidated and depressed by it all.

I know you're kinda limited by your location but my tip is to make your profile stand out.  A good face pic without filters is a must.  Bum shots and abs pics will just attract the Quickie Queens. It's also worth thinking about what you write in your profile.  Guys who are looking for more than a fumble will read it. So be truthful about you and what you're looking for. Keep it light and don't write War & Peace and don't sound too desperate lol

Good luck and just have fun browsing the apps.  If guys don't reply then they're not worth dwelling on.  It says more about them than you. Mr Right will come along when you least expect it.

[horrorfanboy]

Nay

I liked the attention from them when I was a little younger but now it just feels like half are catfishers and the others just after a hook up

[Horrorguy]

I'm not keen on my looks so I'd wouldn't want to judged so, for me, no, but as an overall I say yeah.

[Bacchanalia]

I find Tinder and Hinge are much better. I'm looking for dates, not a quick shag, and it seems to make people a little more sane. I must log into Grindr once a week now, and it's usually just the same people who can't understand no, or create new profiles every so often (presumably) to circumvent everyone blocking them

[Kev]

You're living up to your name.

[Hugh]

I've tried Badoo, Grinder, no luck.
I get ignored. When I've said 'Hi' and the guys reply back with something like "your not my type".
I've been told told that I'm ugly.

Have to try and find a decent guy who is will to talk.

[Parsifal]

I've tried Badoo, Grinder, no luck.
I get ignored. When I've said 'Hi' and the guys reply back with something like "your not my type".
I've been told told that I'm ugly.

Have to try and find a decent guy who is will to talk.

Try using a username e.g. "9inches" or "xprtcksckr" and see if that gets responses.

[spenni1]

no they are a waste of time cause most gay men not all are just lookin for a shag ,or the guys u tend to like or they like u are fuckin miles away

[Parsifal]

no they are a waste of time cause most gay men not all are just lookin  for a shag ,or the guys u tend to like or they like u are fuckin miles away

Not true.  I had a bf whom I met on a dating site.  (Could have had more, but I wasn't always interested in the other guy.  And yes, some are out to spread their seed.)

[spenni1]

well the exsperiance ive had with them are like that , i met my ex on gaydar he was from leeds with him for a year till he went behind my bk all three of my realationships i was shit on so yeah most not all gay men like to fuck around its well known , im 49 came out wen i was 21 had 3 long well longish realationships so dont trust any fucker now thanks to them

[Luckydog2020]

Never tried an app ....

[Luckydog2020]

Never tried any of them .....

[TR83]

I feel as though they're a useful avenue. However, in my experience there are three kinds of people on them; 1. The ones who match and then unmatch, 2. The ones that match but don't talk, and 3. The ones that match and talk but only while you're speaking to them; you'll ask them questions, but they'll ask you nothing about yourself. I don't have as much faith in them as when I first started using them.

[Rodrigo]

I feel as though they're a useful avenue. However, in my experience there are three kinds of people on them; 1. The ones who match and then unmatch, 2. The ones that match but don't talk, and 3. The ones that match and talk but only while you're speaking to them; you'll ask them questions, but they'll ask you nothing about yourself. I don't have as much faith in them as when I first started using them.

Better not to use the date apps and just flowing with the life. Or maybe just meet someone up at a social event (rave, parties, bar, birthdays reunions, etc). Don't be anxious. Best wishes!!!

[Kev]

What happened to going out and meeting people in person?

[Parsifal]

What happened to going out and meeting people in person?

That's so 20th Century.

[TR83]

What happened to going out and meeting people in person?

I'm sure I saw an article recently saying how younger people are now doing just that. There are pros and cons to both ways, but I have to say, meeting people in person is better as you can gauge a person's personality that way