Let's Talk Kinks, Body Types, Health & Stuff

[ken_85]

So somewhat inspired by the other thread on here about that incident requiring a screwdriver (here) it occurred to me that there had been some (very) old threads on the old site and such conversations were fun, interesting, educational, while also having an element and place where we could learn to look after our health (sexual and mental) and each other. 

So...why not have ourselves those chats, especially when things are (somewhat) locked down...

Maybe this isn't a chat for everyone, but then realised that I  raised a question and didn't really answer it myself so in the interest of fairness, thought I'd start. 

I'm a top (mostly) but in the right mood and time will do anything. 
I love jockstraps, shorts and sportswear, but I'm also a lazy cunt who couldn't be arsed wearing them myself. 
Based on body-type, it's also not the easiest getting that kinda clothing that looks or feels in any way sexy for myself.
I've done sounding and quite like it, like the idea and intimacy of watersports but never brought myself to be able to do so.
I'm also epileptic and have a brain tumour, so more than once my husband hasn't been able to quite tell if I'm orgasming or having a seizure (which is actually hilarious in some respects.)

I also didn't come out until I was in uni by virtue of having gone to a rugby school and it being the 90s/early 00s, didn't really have anything to learn from in terms of anything queer, and that's before getting into the side of sex or the like.

[jumbler]

I am a sub. I like to be a passive bitch in bed, and follow my fella’s instructions to the letter. That’s not to say I’ll do anything outrageous (definitely not into role play or leather or restraints and stuff), and I don’t go completely limp either.

But I do like a guy to be assertive, and knows what he wants. Especially giving a good, hard drilling.

And watersports is also a secret fetish, it gets me ferociously horny and hard. Sadly it’s quite hard to find people who are into that who are also good sex or romantic partners.

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As for porn, again, I’d probably be looking to watch guys who are bold, and confident about their sex and passionately enjoy it. Even though I’m a romantic bugger at heart, sex is definitely to be enjoyed.

Nothing worse than watching some of those twink porn videos where they kiss chastely and drill away for 30 mins. Deathly dull, don’t want to see that.

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Another thing that’s very important to me is touch and sensuality. Sex has to be sensual, you have to really enjoy the feel of having a guy between your hands, know his zones and how to pleasure him.

Some of the best bits about sex are cuddles the morning after. You usually get to learn much more about the other guy than you did the night before.

I’ve also been known to enjoy sharing a shower with a guy during the same session, it’s very relaxing and enjoyable, especially before bed.

[Parsifal]

Some of the best bits about sex are cuddles the morning after.

My favorite part of sex is having breakfast together the next morning.
(That's assuming that you spent the night together.)

[jumbler]

Breakfast is more likely to happen when you’re travelling, I think. Sure I’ve done it before though.

[9in]

A submissive moral absolutist, who'd have thought!?

[jumbler]

A submissive moral absolutist, who'd have thought!?

More of a Graded one, actually.

[Wow2004_5]

The bf and I have dabbled in cuckolding when we have been particularly horny!

Would try most things once

[ken_85]

The bf and I have dabbled in cuckolding when we have been particularly horny!

Would try most things once :

I love the idea, and used to talk about with husband way way way back in the day but once I got diagnosed, that idea left my head completely. Whatever about the idea of the physical side of things, I just was NOT prepared to let someone else into that space.

[bassman]

Speaking for myself : I'm Versatile , although up until five years ago I was a proper bottom bitch    and I think I gave guys plenty of them bottom vibes.

I guess I felt pressure to perform as a Top up until that point, so I shied away from it until meeting my last guy. His butt was just too good to resist and I surprised myself by doing a great job on it.  

I think at certain points I have surprised myself and stretched my boundaries as well by dating guys of different races: I've been with black guys, Asian guys, mixed race guys as often as I've been with white guys  and then much later found that I loved going Top equally as much as going Bottom.  

I must admit I   nipple play as mine are particularly sensitive and it drives me pretty wild. I also like wearing kinky jocks and also PVC shorts and zipped jumpsuits. PVC has a great feel against my skin and for me heightens the touch sensations. 

I definitely don't do watersports etc as I don't like being degraded myself or treating other guys in a humiliating way.

[9in]

I've printed off pics of all of you and busy pissing on you all as I type.

[jumbler]

[ladsnet]

I 'get' most kinks, even if they do nothing for me, but I've never really understood the attraction of watersports or worse ( < wanted this in BROWN text but there is no brown)

[9in]

I 'get' most kinks, even if they do nothing for me, but I've never really understood the attraction of watersports or worse ( < wanted this in BROWN text but there is no brown)

Given all the shit people give you on here I'm surprised you've not developed an inevitable taste for it.

[summerfever]

I definitely don't do watersports etc as I don't like being degraded myself or treating other guys in a humiliating way. 

Unless it’s against a person’s will there is nothing degrading or humiliating about watersports.

[jumbler]

Hear hear. I mean, BDSM looks degrading to an outsider, but you don’t know what the participants have agreed to, or whether it’s part of their relationship or not.

It leaves me cold, personally. I wouldn’t want to wear leather for the sake of it, or have a gag in my mouth, or wear cuffs. I just like my partner to use the force of his body to restrain...

[9in]

Hear hear. I mean, BDSM looks degrading to an outsider, but you don’t know what the participants have agreed to, or whether it’s part of their relationship or not.

It leaves me cold, personally. I wouldn’t want to wear leather for the sake of it, or have a gag in my mouth, or wear cuffs. I just like my partner to use the force of his body to restrain...

Well I agree, I wouldn't want to be pissed on and it does little for me to pee on someone else, but if that's what they want and they're a good boy they'll get what they want.

As for everything else, I think almost anything can be a turn on with the right person, at the right time in the right situation so I try not to rule things out quickly.

[Heinrich]

I will never do watersports again. A guy had me pee on him and I have never been more turned off in my life. Couldn't even get hard after that. Definitely don't want to be the receiver either.

My kink if you can even call it that is I wanna fuck outdoors more. I don't need like people walking by, but fucking in a park in the middle of the night is hot to me. And I have certain places worldwide I definitely want to have sex.

There are these old giant concrete domes the Nazis built in occupied France to withstand Allied bombs, for instance. I could not tell you why other than my own bizarre obsession with my heritage and also my fascination with ruins.

Oddly enough it's impossible to find a hookup into it!

[Parsifal]

I was with a guy once who really enjoyed getting his face dick-slapped.  It was fun for both of us.

[Heinrich]

That one I don't understand but am happy to oblige.

[ken_85]

I was with a guy once who really enjoyed getting his face dick-slapped.  It was fun for both of us.

Given the level of stubble I have 100% of the time (and how my head can be somewhat sensitive) that...would end horrifically...